How bad is it really to sleep with your wife...... sorry - i shud have introduced the second line first -
If you are not married - how bad is it to sleep with your wife ?
Okay - now there are TONS of perm coms happening in ur brain .... 'not married' , 'wife' - baat palle to padee - but u dont wanna admit it .. u need me to clarify - ahemm...
Scene is simple - u are in a relationship. of course with the opposite sex.( guys - this is serious - first read the whole thing ... )
the girl loves boy - boy loves girl ... falana falana ....
So they decide to stay together - BOSS ... this is unsafe territory .. i mean proximity at such close quarters can lead to .... well simply put - SEX ! hmmm ....
gets me thinking ... so they have SEX ... well so ...? they use protection all right, i mean itna to maa baap ne sikhaya hee hai ! a
ur agar nahin sikhaya to Engineering to definitely sikha degeee !!!is SEX all about the 'physical act' itself or does it have an emotional angle to it. If you KNOW and BELIEVE you are gonna marry a particular girl ... wats wrong in getting involved physically ? i mean marriage ke baad to karna hee hai na .... acha hai .. practice ho jayegee ... ;)
well - wat do u girls say (if there are any reading this .... i doubt )
Do u think you are okay getting physically involved with someone with whom you plan to get married and settled with.
u see...i saw SALAAAAAAAAAAAAM NAMASTE (thats how preity says it!) yesteday - n i was wondering is it really fair for a girl to suddenly want to get married just cause she is pregnant. I mean i remember Jugal Hansraj saying Saif is a coward ... hmmmm well i think the deal was very clear from the start - they werent planning to get married - y marriage ? Seems to me Marriage is a License to have sex ! well .. i mean that is the biggest incentive for guys in India to get married... what do my bachelor friends say ??
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Now that was one post that got me scratching my chin!
Man, if u go by the Salaaaam Namaste example, I wont blame preity for wanting to get married on gettin preggy. She wasnt ready for a kid, she was young, vivacious and was studying! Now the stupid thing 2 do was gettin senti and refusing the abortion. But thts not the issue here.
Live-in relationships arnt common in India. Its just started weaving its way thru our society. So in India, if a girl (i cant say abt guys) gets into this kind of a situation, she expects to ultimately marry her guy. Its just like another phase for her. I mean earlier it was go arnd wid a guy, get engaged and get married. Now its go around, live 2gether, get engaged and then get married. So marriage is sorta inevitable. Gettin my point...?
I usually never leave such long comments, but like I said, u got me thinking!
"She wasnt ready for a kid, she was young, vivacious and was studying!" - I think preity was ANYTHING but the three - i mean
1. Young - well i reeeeeeeeeeeallly dont think she was young at all ... she looked quite the aged to me ..!
2. Vivacious - i am not too sure i know what that means ! ..
3.Studying - well she was Supposed to be stying Medicine - but by the amount of free time she had with her - either she was studyign the anatomy of an Amoeba or she simply wasnt studying at all ....
watta say ....
sam
There are really a lot of ifs and buts when we discuss this topic and shhhhh.... I think its still a "biggg" and "forbidden" thing to do or even discuss it in India.
To Start with the movie I strongly think the movie was a piece of crap. First of all they decided to stay together because according to them they would have never got time to meet and know each other. But did you ever see both of them doing anything at all other than some foolish stuff which they could have done without staying with each other?? Also she lost a bit of time(nearly 9 months) during that "busy time" when she got pregnant.If any of you guys really blv in "love" , isnt it true that you will do "anythng"/atleast something for the guy/gal you love/think that you love?? If yes then why cannt a so called medical student and a chef can meet in weekends and do things together, understand each other??
I am not against live ins but the thing is to make it work in countries like our beloved India , where culture comes first (most of the time its only for name sake), the movie or points should have been very strong , so that atleast when you come out of the theatre you think for a while and say a yes or no.This movie has not at all helped us in changing the thoughts but throwed many of our fellow indians a number of steps back , They must have really thought or said- "holy crap" and the fact that they decided to stay together with in a day of thinking did not help much.
Now leaving the movie behind and coming back to the topic of Live in do you think india is ready for it?? Ask urself all u boys that you all will not use this as a sleeping bahana with any girl available? Many of the guys will take over it as a adventure -- step 1 - Propose a girl , Step 2 - Propose to move in together, Step 3 - Sleep and enjoy for sometime Step 4 - Break off and move back step 1.I dont say that guys dont do it now but after this they will be licensed to do so behind the name of "live in". Also the guys will want to marry a virgin girl even if they are out of 50 live ins but will u marry a girl who has done it for only one time and that too without "sex".??Do you really think even if you marry the girl/guy after she/he has been in many/one live in relationships , you will be happy and will not think about it at all after marriage, is it that easy to forget the "past" and move forward. What will happen at that one moment when you come in front of the guy who has "slept" with your wife or the girl whom you have slept with , when you are out for a dinner with your spouse??
I dont know what will be the answers for all these but strongly blv that negative answers will be definitely more than positive. And those positive answers will also change when time comes to do it.
P.s. -- I am not much of a writer but I am sure you all will surely forgive me for my bad writing skills :-)
Interesting question. I personally feel that it should not matter at all. You get married if you feel you can spend the rest of your life with a person. There is nothing wrong in my mind in sleeping with each other before or not sleeping with each other or sleeping with others. Easier said than done I know but I guess being indians we are anyhow struggling with lots of demons from the past anyhow. This is just one of them.
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